For background see S. R. Faruqi's choices . This verse is NOT one of his choices; I thought it was interesting and have added it myself. For more on Ghalib's unpublished verses, see the discussion in 4,8x . The enjoyable ambiguity of verses of the exclamatory 'I and' type is here on fine display. Zamin and Gyan Chand illustrate it nicely, by making quite different assignments of who said what to whom, and what they meant by it. The truth is, of course, that the verse has been carefully set up to deny us any such reliable information. For the beloved's complaint may be about a person or a thing ( since is the oblique of both and ). She might be complaining about the lover's behavior in general, or about some complaint that he has made against her. Similarly, when the lover beats his breast (or literally, his head), is that a gesture of guilt or innocence, of personal despair or of vexation with the beloved? Moreover, the exclamations 'you-- and faithlessness!' and 'we-- and good reputation!' give us almost no further help, because, as Gyan Chand notes, they might well have been said sarcastically. Or, of course, hypocritically, grovelingly, humorously, or even-- in the warped world of the lover-- quite sincerely. As so often, Ghalib has both permitted and compelled us to decide for ourselves. graphics/quarrel.jpg